Have you heard of the expression, faking it to make it? Well, there’s a lot of truth in that as well as in the sentiment from the above lyric from the Bananarama/Fun Boy Three song!
To fulfil our need for significance, i.e., how we feel appreciated and unique in the world and the sense of importance and value we put on ourselves, we compare ourselves to others. For some, this creates a negative response which can only be alleviated by putting others down in order to feel better or more important. For others, feeling significance comes from having a strong sense of appreciation for the self and a celebratory attitude to the differences with other people and a healthy curiosity as to what they do that makes them so appealing and what we might do to be more like them.