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Quick explanation of Human Needs Psychology for upcoming workshop!

So what is 6 Human Needs Psychology and why would this be useful to me as a Leader?

Having just posted about the upcoming free Human Needs Psychology Overview workshop I thought a little more information would be useful!

On my website,, you will find an overview of the 6 human Needs, what it is, why it is relevant and some contextual examples to help you understand its use in creating more personal and collective happiness and wellbeing. Just head to the Resources section to find it and if you sign up to the newsletter, you will receive a more in-depth pdf explanation and how you can immediately apply the knowledge in understanding your own thoughts and behaviours and the impact this has on your personal life and general wellbeing.

Human Needs Psychology is a term created by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes to describe a practical inquiry into what motivates us as people. By clarifying our beliefs, values and subsequent emotions and behaviours, many of our problems and challenges can be solved by making strategic decisions and taking specific actions. The goal is to promote rapid, sustainable change and personal growth by increasing our responsibility and mastery of our emotions, needs, decisions and purpose.

While we are all unique as individuals and have unique and individual challenges and problems, we all share the same basic needs that drive our thoughts and behaviours, we just choose to meet them in different ways and achieve very different results.

The 6 Needs are:



Love and Connection





All of these needs are essential but we each choose to prioritise and meet them in very different ways and it is the way we choose to do this that impacts on our short and long term happiness and wel-lbeing both personally and on others.

For example, the need for Certainty is our basic need to seek comfort and avoid pain ranging from needing basic shelter and food to how much control we need to feel over external circumstances and people’s responses to us.

We all need to feel a sense of Uncertainty as this is what stimulates and excites us. Again, the range of ways we can meet this need is huge but one of the most common is to seek and experience variety in our emotional state in both positive and negative ways.

We all need to feel significant and that we have value and matter and again, the rules and expectations we have to feel this are varied and present as very different behaviours and rules that can either meet this need in positive and sustainable ways or short term, instantly achievable but negative ways.

We all need to feel connected and it is argued that one of the biggest reasons for why we can feel depressed and anxious is because we feel a lack of meaningful connection to both ourselves and others.

Growth comes to us no matter how much or little we do as we change with each new experience, emotion, relationship we have. However, depending on our rules, habits of thought, emotional response and behaviours we can either grow into bigger, better versions of ourselves or grow in how we view ourselves and others negatively which will impact hugely on how we experience the world.

Finally, Contribution is the need we have to focus on and give to something beyond ourselves. It can be argues that if this need is the one that is prioritised, our other needs are very naturally met but again, it is down to the rules and expectations we have as to how positive or negative the impact is to our happiness and wellbeing levels and how we respond to, and impact on others.

Exploring and understanding which of these needs you tend to prioritise and why, can help make sense of many of the emotions, triggers, beliefs and actions you currently have and of those, which ones you would like to change to achieve improved wel-lbeing and to also improve your understanding of and connection with others.

To find out more then click here to visit the landing page for the free Human Needs Overview Workshop on Wednesday 8th July that is a taster for the more in-depth 7 week online course starting in September.

The aim is to arm you with the knowledge and skills to have a better understanding of your own and others behaviour and responses in order to better manage yourself and others, creating more sustainable and positive impact on how you live, manage and lead.

If you would like to know more then please do head over to my website to the resources and work with me page, or feel free to get in touch and I will be more than happy to chat with you in more depth and share how other Heads I have worked with have found this understanding invaluable in gaining a different perspective and approach in managing themselves and their team.

In the following few blogs, I will be taking a look at a contextual example of each need in action, using contextual examples from a school setting and how with this new understanding and approach, the head and other leaders were able to create improved outcomes in their management of staff and the impact this had on the school as a whole.

Enjoy and see you soon!





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Welcome to the new Website!

Hello and welcome to the new website!

While I have been continuing with my coaching, training and studying, this time in lock down has given me the opportunity to really reflect on where I want my focus to be.

All things related to personal well-being in everyone is still a passion but I realised that I was not making the most of my personal experience in education that would make more of a difference to the services I offer and the people I want to reach.

So, as a result of some self-reflection as to what really matters to me, where I want to make the most positive difference and the best way to use my knowledge, training and skills to serve others, this website has come about!

The principles of what I offer stay the same, using my own knowledge and experience to share relevant theory, strategies and tools that will help others gain clarity and awareness as to the reasons behind the well-being challenges they face and the tools to be able to create positive and sustainable change in a way that suits them as an individual. No one is the same and while we may have common challenges, share common thought and behaviour patterns, our story as to how that plays out in our life is both unique and personal.

As a teacher and trainer within schools, my passion to help schools provide the best environment to both nurture and equip pupils with the tools necessary for emotional and physical well-being is always at the fore. There are many ways I do this already, through my work with Osiris Educational and with individual children and adults both within and without the education sector.

My hope is that I can continue to share my personal and professional knowledge, training, study and experience to provide more focused services that will have a positive impact in prioritising self-management and self-care in those who have the greatest influence within schools. The more this is prioritised in, and by the adults, the more this will be modelled and sustained in the pupils and I am really excited to be a part of that process for Heads and schools.

So! Please do visit the website, to see for yourself, sign up to receive my fortnightly newsletter with resources, tips and right now a free e-book,

‘An Introduction to Human Needs Psychology: How Learning to Master our Emotions and Responses Leads to Improved Individual and Group Well-Being’

and to get in touch if there is anything more you want to know or have a chat about!

Looking forward to hearing from you!





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Human Needs Psychology

Below is an overview of the 6 Human Needs, to find out more about these needs, how you choose to prioritise them and how this impacts on you and others in detail, then sign up below to receive my free e-book! In it I will share how understanding your needs can provide insight into why you have the challenges you do and identifying what you can do differently to promote positive individual and group change.

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Human Needs Psychology is a term created by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes to describe a practical inquiry into what motivates us as people. By clarifying our beliefs, values and subsequent emotions and behaviours, many of our problems and challenges can be solved by making strategic decisions and taking specific actions. The goal is to promote rapid, sustainable change and personal growth by increasing our responsibility and mastery of our emotions, needs, decisions and purpose.

While we are all unique as individuals and have unique and individual challenges and problems, we all share the same basic needs that drive our thoughts and behaviours, we just choose to meet them in different ways.

The following are needs, not just desires and are essential to our survival as they underline and motivate every choice we make in all areas of our lives, especially in how we view and treat ourselves and others.

So, what are these needs?

There are six of them:

  • Certainty
  • Variety
  • Love and Connection
  • Significance
  • Growth
  • Contribution


This is what it says on the tin, a need that we can be sure certain things will happen or remain the same and within our control. We want to have feelings of safety, avoid pain, and feel comfortable in our environment and relationships. While we all have the same need in terms of shelter, warmth, food and basic safety, there are then hugely different ways we choose to meet that need. This can range from the certainty of following set rules, values and beliefs from society or religion, needing to always have the same amount of money coming in, the same routine and daily rituals and our expectations of others. For some, the need for certainty can lean into a need to control, either our own emotions and responses or those of others.


The need for things to be different! Variety and challenges that will stretch us emotionally and physically. Surprises, thrills, new experiences. Again, we all are very different in how we meet this need, ranging from the danger and thrill seekers to feeling changing our route home once a week is variety enough or what we have for dinner on a Thursday.

The most common way to meet this need is the changing of our emotions and mental state. Obvious ones include drinking, smoking drugs or out of character behaviours in order to feel different and seek out new emotions/experiences. Or, most common of all, creating and sharing problems. Focusing on problems, either our own or others’ is a great way to add variety to our mental state, especially when it distracts us from facing or dealing with the real cause of any uncertainty or unhappiness we may be feeling.


We all need, on some level, to feel we are valued, important and have some sense of appreciation from others. While this need for validation is usually sought from external factors such as from family, partners, bosses and colleagues, the ways we seek this and what makes us feel valued again is hugely variable. Common is the need to feel unique and special in some way and to feel respected.

In some ways significance and certainty are tightly linked as we create rules about what we need in order to feel valued. At our basic human level, we are programmed to compare ourselves to others and make judgements as to how important we are based on how we feel we are treated compared to someone else.

We may seek to feel significant by being the best as something or the worst and may stay stuck in patterns of behaviour that creates a certain desired response from others.

Love and Connection:

Arguably the most important need for everyone but with the key question of what, exactly, has to happen in order to feel the desired amount of love and connection to ourselves and to others?

Again, each one of us is very different in how we meet that need.  A core belief may be that you need to feel love in order to let love flow as without it you feel worthless. It is common to also believe that being needed is the same as being loved. Love is not just referring to romantic love, there are many ways to feel love and love is not always necessary to feel connection.

While prioritising this need can demonstrate much empathy, generosity and willingness to be of service, the danger is in feeling disappointed by not feeling appreciated or fear of disappointing others by not doing or being enough.


It would be lovely if we could just sit on a stump and not move or grow at all but sadly this is impossible! By living we grow and change physically year on year, with each stage of life and experience causing emotional growth. Without growth and cultivation, anything we value and want to keep in our lives will wither.

Those who prioritise growth tend to always look for new things to learn, are very self-sufficient and love developing different skills. The downside is they can also lose a sense of connection with others, be quite reclusive and may neglect developing their relationships in any meaningful way.


Of all the needs, if this one is prioritised, the other needs naturally are brought together. Essentially, this is a need to look beyond the self and contribute to something ‘other.’ Again, this can be in many different ways; being a good parent, teacher of member of the community.

Contributing to others, in whatever way we choose to do it, brings a sense of fulfilment and purpose which is essential for our emotional well-being. By contributing we have the certainty we are being of service to others, we experience variety through our experiences, connection to family or wider community and growth through learning from others and our experiences.

If this need is in conflict with significance or love and connection, we may neglect our own well-being to be of service so awareness of this is needed to create balance.