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There is a well known teaching model of, “I do, We do, You do” used to promote clarity, both of the desired outcome and the process of how to achieve it in the in the best way possible for all involved.
And this is always the genuine intention of headteachers and senior leaders when creating policies related to well-being, to enable all staff and students to thrive, professionally, personally and academically, ideally through modelling the “I do” from the top down.
Yet, despite the very best of intentions to consistently and authentically model this, it is fair to say that a more accurate model is one of, “Do as I say, not what I do” policy.
Is this because heads and teachers don’t truly believe in the value of establishing and maintaining the policy, systems and consistent actions that promote individual and collective well-being across the school?
Of course not. It’s just that the very nature of a school, with staff made up of different personalities, needs and effective levels of self-management and care, can make this a seemingly impossible task.
The needs of the students and the desire to authentically provide them with the knowledge and tools for effective self-awareness, acceptance and care is always highlighted as a priority and it is. Yet, the time and energy needed to effectively model and sustain this is often lacking.
And the ones experiencing the most pressure and stress? You, the Headteacher. You carry the biggest responsibility and in the need to be all things to all people, the effective management of your own personal needs and well-being is rarely prioritised, creating a gap between the genuine modelling of effective well-being and the reality experienced by both yourself and your staff.
Overwhelm and burnout
Breakdown in communication
Breakdown of mutual trust
Lack of life/work balance
Resistance to change/support
lack of clarity in messages given and received
Breakdown of relationships both personal and professional
Fear of not knowing or being enough
Negative comparison to others
Allowing yourself to recognise those challenges and giving yourself permission to understand the why behind what you currently do and discover how you meet your needs in both positive and negative ways, working with an experienced coach and trainer to work with you to provide:
Time and the safe, confidential space to understand and explore your current needs and well-being habits and how this is impacting on you personally and professionally.
Clarity as to what is and isn’t working and why. Access to a wide range of bespoke resources and tools that will help release negative habits of thoughts and behaviours that no longer serve you.
The choice as to which new habits you want to enhance and create to be and feel more authentic, not only in the management of yourself and your own well-being but in how you model and lead your staff to do the same.
These outcomes link through the cycle of:
Knowledge is power and in understanding how you currently identify and experience your own needs and sense of well-being and the impact this has on you both personally and professionally, the more open you can be to taking positive action to improve both your experience and the experience of those you lead.
Accepting that self-knowledge is not the same as self-blame or judgement. Accepting what is and isn’t in your control with more compassion for both yourself and others. Accepting that no one is perfect and we can’t do it all but by demonstrating the importance of taking personal responsibility for your own well-being, creates room to make more positive choices in how you encourage and lead others to do the same.
Understanding your personal needs and how to be flexible and adaptive in how you meet them by choosing the right tools and resources at the right time that best serve them. The best decisions come from a clear mind and positive mindset. Creating and modelling why and how to prioritise self-management and care will lead to increased resilience and resourcefulness, creating a more sustainable positive impact on both you and those you lead.
I will shortly be launching an online course for headteachers that explores 6 Human Needs Psychology in-depth, including the why and how we choose to meet them and the impact both positive and negative this has on our individual and group experience.
Having this knowledge helps empower you to regain control of your own emotions and well-being and that of others.
An in-depth e-book about Understanding and applying Human Needs Psychology and the course outline is currently available to all those who sign up to my free newsletter,
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In these challenging times, I would like to offer my support to headteachers in managing their personal wellbeing, by offering a free 90-minute coaching session.